A Reviving Valentine’s Day
Why Not Make This Valentine’s Day About Rekindling the Spark?
Ah, Valentine’s Day. Some call it a made-up holiday designed to get us to spend money on overpriced chocolates and overcrowded dinners. But here’s the thing—like many things in life, Valentine’s Day can be whatever we make of it. Instead of rolling your eyes and opting out completely, what if you used it as a chance to pour back into your relationship?
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I’ve seen firsthand how intentional moments can reignite connection. At Embrace Renewal Therapy & Wellness Collective, I’m all about helping couples turn the everyday grind into opportunities for growth and intimacy. This Valentine’s Day, let’s talk about a topic that tends to take a backseat when you’re deep in parenting mode: sexual intimacy.
Why Is Sex So Hard When You’re Parents?
Let’s be honest—parenting can feel like running a never-ending marathon. You’re overworked, underappreciated, and, frankly, exhausted. Privacy is a distant memory, your body may have gone through some major changes, and living in survival mode doesn’t exactly make you feel like a romance novel cover star.
But here’s the truth: sexual intimacy is an essential part of a healthy relationship. It’s not just about physical connection; it’s about emotional closeness, too. And while it’s okay to grieve the loss of spontaneity (goodbye, carefree days of jumping each other’s bones at a moment’s notice), it’s also important to embrace creativity and adapt to your new normal.
Getting Creative with Your Love Life
If you’re waiting for the perfect moment to rekindle your sex life, let me save you some time: it’s not coming. Instead of waiting for the stars to align, try thinking outside the box. Here are a few ideas to get you started:
The Quickie Revival: Who says passion has to be a long, drawn-out affair? Steal a moment in the garage or during nap time. It’s not about the setting; it’s about the connection.
Flirty Texts: Send a steamy message during the day. Anticipation is half the fun.
Under-the-Table Magic: Who says foreplay has to wait until bedtime? A little footsie (or something more daring) under the dinner table can be your secret spark.
Explore New Tools: There’s no shame in enlisting some help to keep things exciting. From fun toys to lubricants, the right tools can make the journey more enjoyable.
It’s okay to feel a little bittersweet about how things have changed. But don’t get stuck mourning the past. Instead, focus on what your intimacy can look like now—playful, creative, and uniquely yours.
How the Gottman Couples Workshop Can Help
If this all feels easier said than done, don’t worry. That’s where the Gottman Couples Workshop at Embrace Renewal Therapy comes in. This evidence-based workshop is designed to help couples:
Rebuild emotional and physical intimacy.
Understand and break unhelpful patterns.
Strengthen your partnership, no matter what life throws your way.
Whether you join us virtually from anywhere in the world, this workshop offers practical tools to deepen your connection. Think of it as a relationship tune-up that’s perfect for Valentine’s Day (or any day, really).
This Valentine’s Day, Invest in Each Other
So, what’s it going to be this year? Another generic box of chocolates or a meaningful step toward reigniting the spark in your relationship? If you’re ready to prioritize your partnership and rediscover what makes you and your partner click, I’d love to see you at the Gottman Couples Workshop.
Let’s make this Valentine’s Day one to remember—not for the fancy gifts or Instagram-worthy moments, but for the deep connection you’ll create together. Ready to get started? Sign up here and let’s make it happen.
